As a psychologist, many people come to me who are in an aimless, abusive or painful relationship and they know that this relationship is not good for them, but they cannot get out of it.  

Gives a strange logic that I have been in this relationship for many years or many months. I have given so much time to this relationship or invested time in it. Why should I go somewhere else?

 I explain to them that suppose you are sitting on a train going somewhere and after several hours you find that the train is not going where you wanted to go. 

That means you have sat on the wrong train. Now when you  What will you do if you find out that you are sitting on the wrong train?

 They will sit thinking that half of the journey has already been decided. Where this train is going, they will go. Or you will pray for the train.  Crying please change the route. Take me to my destination. When the train was not going where you want to go. Or accept your mistake that it is my fault that I sat in the wrong train.  Someone tricked me into sitting in the wrong train. Will try to get off the wrong train immediately.

 In the same way, always be aware in a relationship whether your relationship is going where you want it to go or not. For example, a girl starts a relationship to marry a guy, which means that for this girl, the goal of the relationship is marriage.  While that boy only wants "friendship". The goal of the boy is nothing beyond friendship. Or the boy keeps the girl sitting in the friendship train by cheating on marriage, it simply means that the girl is sitting in the wrong train.  gone. Now she should change the train instead of begging for the train to change the train for the sake of Allah and take me to my destination. A train that will take her where she wants to go.

 I am sad to say that we learn a lot in life but we don't learn to get off the wrong train. What we lose is that we keep crying while sitting on the wrong train.